Certified Elder Care Attorney, Victoria Collier, addresses some of the difficulties adult children run into when caring for aging parents along with a probably cause for the resistance that aging parents often display.
Decatur, GA, September 25, 2017: Victoria L. Collier, founder of The Elder & Disability Law Firm, has posted a new article on her law firm’s website entitled “When Roles Are Reversed – Caring For Aging Parents.” Ms. Collier addresses both adult children and the parents in her latest article recognizing the difficulties both face when wanting to provide the most loving care and coming to terms with the limitations of aging.
“Caring for aging parents without seeming like an overbearing ‘helicopter’ child,” writes Collier, “can be like walking a tightrope for adult children.” She continues adding, “I read a recent article at theatlantic.com entitled, What Aging Parents Want From Their Kids. The biggest issue is that parents find there is a fine line between their kids’ caring and controlling.”
Collier says, “In my experience that fine line exists for both parents and kids. So the tightrope-walking act is often going on for both parent and child.” According to Collier “Role reversal can be distressing when the adult child makes every effort to help the parent who stubbornly resists help.”
“I always encourage families to attempt to come to some kind of agreement sooner rather than later,” says Collier. She elaborates, “No one ever knows for certain if or when they will become mentally or physically incapable of caring for oneself. Also, it’s difficult if there is only one adult child who doesn’t live close enough to the parent to see to their needs on a regular basis.”
It’s easy to understand as Collier states that, “Giving up one’s independence can be terrifying. No longer being able to drive oneself to the supermarket or church or to see friends can understandably make someone cranky.” She adds, “However, endangering their own lives as well as the lives of others must be taken into consideration. So, how do families make that decision before someone gets hurt?”
The entire article can be read at http://www.elderlawgeorgia.com/roles-reversed-caring-aging-parents/
About Victoria Collier
Victoria L. Collier, CELA founded The Elder & Disability Law Firm of Victoria L. Collier, P.C. to serve the legal needs of seniors when their health care needs increase. Victoria is also Co-Founder of Collier Scott Financial Solutions, LLC. At both firms WE BELIEVE that people should not have to lose everything they’ve worked a lifetime to earn and that every person is an individual who deserves respect and the highest quality of life possible, regardless of age or ability.
Victoria enlisted in the U.S. Air Force during Desert Storm, 1989-1995, and also served in the U.S. Army Reserves, 1Lt. 2001-2004, JAG Corps. Victoria is a national expert on the VA Wartime Pension for veterans and their widows who need additional assistance with activities of daily living and helping them qualify for and receive tax-free income from the VA to pay for it. Victoria graduated from Valdosta State University with a B.A. in Psychology and then University of Nebraska, College of Law. In 2014, Victoria was awarded with the Alumni Master Award from the University of Nebraska.
Victoria is a Certified Elder Law Attorney through The National Elder Law Foundation and has been named as the only attorney in Georgia as “Fellow” of the National Academy of Elder Law Attorneys (NAELA). Victoria was appointed by Governor Perdue to the Georgia Council on Aging, 2010 – 2016 and was awarded Dekalb County Veteran of the Year, 2013. She is the author of 47 Secret Veterans Benefits for Seniors; Paying for Long Term Care – Financial Help for Wartime Veterans: The VA Aid & Attendance Benefit. Victoria has co-authored several books: Blooper Episodes in Estate Planning, Don’t Go Broke in a Nursing Home, and Protect Your IRA: Avoid the 5 Common Mistakes. Most notably, Victoria co-authored the National Best Seller, The Road to Success, with Jack Canfield, author of Chicken Soup for the Soul series.
About The Elder & Disability Law Firm
The Elder & Disability Law Firm was established to serve the legal needs of senior citizens when their healthcare needs increase. The Firm focuses its entire practice on Elder Law and Estate Planning matters, which encompasses the areas of Asset Protection, Medicaid Planning, VA Benefits planning, Estate and Special Needs Planning. Victoria Collier has grown her law practice through her personable nature and good management skills.